Showing posts with label Death. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Death. Show all posts

Sunday, July 3, 2016

Oblivion, The End of it All



It's occurred to me that one of the reasons that people hang onto the idea of religion, is that it's tied to the idea of immortality. Or perhaps it's simply the fear of death.

Follow this or that dogma, pray to this or that god, and you'll be guaranteed a nice place in the afterlife.  If you're raised in a religious family, early on in life, you're taught that you don't really die. Your pet didn't really die, grandma or whomever didn't die, but they're in heaven. Even a "Dog Heaven".  (Oh Really?)   The reality that they're gone, and won't be coming back,  just seems too scary for some, I suppose.  Why is it that so many humans find it so horrible to consider the fact that our loved ones, and even one day ourselves, will simply be gone?  Like smoke dispersing from a fire, our souls are never to be recaptured again.

If we're raised within a religious framework we're told that if we pray hard enough, give enough of ourselves, be humble enough, etc. etc., we will be given a mansion in heaven and spend the hereafter with our God. That just doesn't work for me.

Why is it so hard to just simply say.  "Hey! We're here this one time, and we ought to get it right. For no one else, other than for ourselves?  What's wrong with doing the right thing just for the sake of it being the right thing to do?  Why do we need to have all of these extra carrots?  What about teaching our children, and each other, that doing the right thing, for the right reason ought to be enough?  The reward? That we can live life with a clear conscience if we do.  What if we teach that greed, envy, hate, etc. AND other addictive activities  can destroy us?  And if they don't, they would at the very least mess with our serenity. We need, I need, to live life on life's terms.  For an alcoholic / addict, we desperately need to be able to stay sober. No matter what. Because if we don't we have a very good chance that we will fall into a pit of despair.  We'll have a life void of joy and happiness.

For me, the fact that we're only going to be here once, that there's only going to be one today, is a good enough reason.  Human life is special. We should try to treasure each other.

We all will come to an end, sooner or later. But for me, the simple fact that working with fellow alcoholics helps me keep my serenity, and sanity. Even if they don't feel the way I do about God, they help can me, and visa versa.  It's a pithy saying, but it still holds true. "Take what you need, and leave the rest."


Saturday, March 5, 2016

A Fond Farewell, Jeff C.

He brought to his home group a ton of common sense. Helped keep things focused on what was important, guiding the Westside Agnostic group to be an AA meeting that ANYONE and EVERYONE should feel welcome. Period.  That the only requirement to be an AA Member is simply a desire not to drink. That's it.

I think that Jeff knew that if things were kept simple, we as a group could be the most help. To help widen the gateway, and keep the gateway open. For myself and those to follow.

From AA Comes of Age (1957) Bill W. wrote: "...this was the great contribution of our atheists and agnostics. They had widened our gateway so that all who suffer might pass through, regardless of their belief or lack of belief." 





JEFFREY THOMAS CUNNINGHAM, of Lakewood, passed away on February 8, 2016 after a long and brave battle with cancer. He was the father of three beloved daughters - Emily Millay Cunningham, Sophie Katherine Cunningham and Anna Louise Cunningham - and is also survived by their mother, Deborah Cunningham along with partner, Heather Madden and a sister, Kelly Lance of Dayton. He was preceded in death by his parents, John and Margaret (Looney) Cunningham of Akron, Ohio and his sister, Rebecca Cerio of Franklin, Tennessee. Born in Akron, OH on February 2, 1953, he graduated from Akron University with a B.S. in Accounting, and from Case Western Weatherhead School of Management with an MBA in Banking and Finance. He began his career at Comshare and moved to Ernst & Young. Later, he enjoyed a long career as a consultant with SAP. He also worked for Oracle, IBM, and Forte Industries. A transformational figure in the Cleveland area recovery community, his dedication and inspiration have helped many. He was also actively involved in the Cleveland AA Central Office and led weekly groups at two men's recovery houses, the Lantern and Sobriety in Motion. Family and friends are welcome at SLONE & CO. FUNERAL DIRECTORS, 13115 LORAIN AVENUE, CLEVELAND, ON FRIDAY, FEBRUARY 12 FROM 6-8 P.M. where concluding services will be held at 8 p.m. In lieu of flowers, the family asks that donations be made to the Alcoholics Anonymous Cleveland District Office, 1701 E. 12th Street, Suite 20, Cleveland, OH 44114. Interment Lake View Cemetery.


And for some reason, this song, "Unsteady" seems to make me think of Jeff